Contrary to popular belief, friendship is not a state of mind.
It's an act----something you "do".
Lots of people are lovers but aren't friends. Lots of people are relatives and aren't friends. Lots of people initiate "friendship" for financial gain only (to expand their own agenda, or find a way to separate you from your finances, steal your identity, etc.).
And with this comes a tough lesson that can be devastating (I know...been there myself) because..... we can only learn this by experience. Schools don't teach it, television doesn't teach it, and .....if you're above a certain age---our parents didn't teach it.
You have to learn it by living...by thinking of someone as a friend, only to find out that they don't think of YOU as a friend. And, we learn that all the wishing, manipulation or determination to "cement" that friendship just serves to push the would-be friend further away.
Because friendship is something we CHOOSE to do; no one should be forced (or feel obligated) to maintain a friendship.
Friendship is not about whether you're "good" or not; it's not a reflection of you. It's a balanced act between two people. That doesn't mean it's always balanced at every moment. Sometimes you need a friend, and sometimes a friend needs you.
Negative people have friends. Positive people have friends. Sometimes the friendships are intertwined.
All because friendship is based on a trust that is returned.
Our own two eyes can teach us a quick lesson about friendship.
Ready? Here we go.........
They blink together.
They move together.
They cry together.
They see things together.
And... they sleep together.
And they've never seen each other.
....that's what friendship is.